A spanking is just you exerting control, and losing control. That is archaic thinking if you ask me. Spanking is not the way to go. I use to get spanked and the torture was over with in a few minutes. I use to punish my cousins for bad behavior by taking away privileges, time outs, making them run around the yard till I was tired of them running and the threat of making them stand up in front of their peers and say what they did. If you just think about the things that you really didn't like as oppose to a spanking you might come up with some real discipline instead of a spanking.

Ok 39 that was yout experiance. Whenever I got spanked I made damn sure that I didnt do anything like that again to get spanked because I hated it. It hurt and felt really bad afterwards. Spanking can be just as useful of a tool depending on the kid.

Well fine, then spank away. This post is just a prime example of mimicking, just wait till your kid is trying to spank your youngest or someone else's child for doing "something wrong."

Then you need to sit down with that child and tell them what is appropriate for the parent to do and what is not ok for a sibling to do. Its not that hard.

Why can't I sit down and explain to the kid that swearing isn't alright? Why do I have to spank them as a tool to make my point when there are other methods. By your logic I should spank for bad behavior, but then talk to them about another bad behavior? If I can just talk it out to begin with, why spank? I have cared for many children in my 35 years and NEVER spanked a single one. Children can understand reason to a certain point, you just have to have the patience to teach them why what they are doing is wrong. To me, a spanking just means you don't have the patience to actually TALK to them.

Did you read the FML? She tried. The kid kicked her and told her to "stop treating me like a ******* child!"

I read it. I see what OP wrote. I don't think that a kid that says that is just going to stand there and take a spanking without more foul language being spewed out from his mouth. How many spanking is it going to take? Are you saying that ONE spanking would be sufficient to cure his foul mouth? I hardly think that.

Taking away the kids toys for an hour isnt going to do much good either. And spanking once doesnt always fix a serious problem. Sometimes it takes a combo of many things, like washing the kids mouth out with soap.

So what you're saying is its the parent's fault their child learned something that was completely put of their control? If that was true, technically your sister should be at fault for something YOU taught her kid, and SHE should be putting money in the swear jar. Yeah, makes perfect sense.

What it's coming to is these days you'll get the cops called on you for merely swatting your kid on the butt. Parents aren't allowed to discipline their kids anymore.

We can but it has to be an open hand slap on the butt. Can't be anywhere else or any other way.